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Thursday, January 7, 2021
Punarjanm Funeral Home
752 Mountain Blvd.
Watchung, New Jersey, United States
Live Stream Service 9:30 am
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Friday, January 8, 2021
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"Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory." -Anonymous
When I first met Asit way back when our wives were participants in the Indian Association dance shows, I thought to myself, "This guy has the same sense of humor as I do!" In fact, he called them “Genies” which they still refer to themselves as.
Ever since then, whenever we were together, we would take the opportunity to drive everyone around us crazy. Having fun at their expense; we seemed to be always on the "same page".
Of course, it was all for fun and I enjoyed those moments with Asit.
That being said, I began to realize that he was also a person who had a HUGE heart and would do anything for anyone. PERIOD. He always tried to make sure everyone was taken care of at gatherings he hosted, almost to a fault.
I recall one time when we were invited to a bbq at their house and I see a tandoori oven. Naturally I had to ask why? In typical Asit fashion, he tells me “how else was he going to make naan, duh!”
Once, my wife Nimisha and I went to a place called “Grounds for Sculpture” with Asit and Apexa. What was supposed to be a trip to appreciate art and sculptures turned into Asit and I taking every opportunity to act like two children. I’m not sure what the wives were thinking but it wasn’t working. Eventually, they gave in and we all acted silly at times. We ended the night celebrating Apexa’s birthday, ending a day filled with laughter and celebration.
Looking back, my family and I can remember so many of these little moments with Asit that I know we will value them even more now. From making jokes or making chai, there was never a dull moment with him in the picture.
We will surely miss him but feel better knowing that he is now with his mother, at peace. I know that collectively, we all will be there for Apexa and the girls. Each of whom were a pillar in his life, supporting him through out his ups and downs. I know he loved them more than life itself and would do anything for them.
Our prayers and thoughts are with Apexa, Ria, Reshma, Roshni and the entire Dave family and friends during this difficult time.
With all our love, The Pandya family
Nilesh, Nimisha, Ajay and Arjun.
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Leena, Karun & Kunal Krishnaswami planted a tree in memory of Asit Tony Dave
Friday, January 8, 2021
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"Asit Tony Dave" will remain in our hearts forever.
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Neeta Thakar posted a symbolic gesture
Friday, January 8, 2021
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I am so saddened by the knowledge that Asit Mama is no more. He’s been a true part of the landscape in which I grew up, always kind, encouraging, sweet and protective of a pre-teen then teenager trying to find her way in America while balancing her Indian roots at home. Many, many times, he bridged the two for me by taking my side on social matters with my parents, or showing me how to do fireworks for the first time. I love him and always will. Hopefully he has found peace alongside our beloved Rekha Masi.
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Dhwani posted a condolence
Friday, January 8, 2021
Asit juju, you were a vibrant, loving and wonderful personality and a beautiful soul. You always livened up a room just by walking in. The smile on your face never wavered no matter how life challenged you. I Will always remember your kindness and your ability to brighten up the day any person. Will miss you terribly. May your soul rest in eternal peace.
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Jitendra &Bharti Rawal posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2021
Asit we all know that you had a GOLDEN HEART.You always went out of your way to help everybody.when ever we came to New Jersey you always made a point to visit us and invite us for a barbecue. We will never forget the kindness and the beautiful smiling face. May god give you eternal peace and a place at his lotus feet. May the almighty lord grant strength to the family. OM SHANTI OM Jitu mama and Bharti mami
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Sejal Mistry posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2021
Dear Apexabhabhi, Ria, Reshma & Roshni,
We are so sorry for your loss. I have lovely memories of Asitbhai from our visits to New Jersey when we were growing up-from his amazing dimples, to his love of food and right down to his fun mischievous ways of joking and making you laugh. He had such a big heart and was always ready to do anything you needed. It’s unfortunate that, as we grew up, we didn’t get to spend ours summers in NJ with you all. May he Rest In Peace.
Sejal, Sanjay, Pritesh, Dhiral & Anisha (Boston)
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Asit,
You are gone from our sight, but never from our hearts. We are at a loss for words. We know there is nothing for us to say that will make your loss easier for everyone around. You are always helping others and doing everything you can for others. We love you!
-Gira, Tushar, Shivang, and Shlok Jani
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Chandrika posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2021
Asit, Asit, Asit: MY forever FAVORITE/SPECIAL Nephew. I have countless memories and do not know where to begin!!
For all my nieces and nephews, I am “auntie” but for Asit I was always his MASI. (So Apexa also always calls me Masi too!) I remember in 1964 when I received a letter from my cousin/BEST FRIEND Rekha announcing that she has given birth to a very healthy boy (I think he was more than 8lbs.). I first saw/met Asit in India when he was 11 years old and had a broken foot, it was in cast and he was not allowed to walk.
Once he came to the USA, we developed a very special bond and the rest is history. I will always remember and NEVER forget when Asit bought a saree for his mom and for me from his first paycheck. He was always there for me by offering his help in any way that he could. We shared many laughs as well as tears throughout his lifetime.
Asit always liked challenges and was UpToDate with technologies. A self-made man, always eager to help and so humble in whatever he did. A Proud husband and loving/caring (overprotective) father and of course, a great friend to many people he has touched with his kindness and generosity.
May your soul rest in peace. I will miss you.
-Chandrika Masi
Yatrik Dave posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2021
Dear Asit Bhai,
This is not fair. It’s not fair that you left us in middle of the way. Your loss makes me feel disheartened a lot. Peaple say “haven is always seeking good people” to console our grieving heart but there is no consolation to your loss.
My dear brother, you always offered best of the best to others regardless of circumstances. Every one knew that you have golden heart but I would rather say you had a heart of diamond because diamond goes through extreme pressure, cutting and polishing to shine. You have gone through many rough patches in your life but your heart remained same. You achieved tremendous success as real-estate agent in 80’s. You had unique ability to become friends with anyone and give unconditional love; but the way you left us, has given us a lot of pain. Asitbhai, this is not fair. I love you and I will always miss you, my brother.
Yatrik
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Devin Glashow lit a candle
Thursday, January 7, 2021
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I got to know Asit when he joined the company I was working for. He became more than a colleague for me, and we became friends who stayed in touch even after I departed the company (and Asit did later on). It was a pleasure to work with him. Asit always had a good sense of humor, and knew how to make me laugh and make work fun, even when management above us was frustrating. I'll always remember the laughs we had, and the lunches we had together (especially when he taught me the "proper" way to eat Indian food). It was just recently that we spoke on the phone, it's hard to believe he is gone. I am glad I had the chance to work with him and get to know him as a friend. May his memory be a blessing for all. He will be missed but never forgotten.
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Leena Krishnaswami posted a condolence
Thursday, January 7, 2021
My dear brother - Asit, a man with a big heart!
Asit and I shared many childhood years together in Surendranagar and Ahmedabad and have many fond memories of our times in India. This continued when Asit moved to the United States and I came for my education. His home was my first “port of call”.
Asit was more than a cousin, he was a brother to me in the US. He was always full of affection, generous, kind, and always ready to help others. Nothing was considered “going out of the way”, including driving long distances and many hours for a family function, giving rides to the airport, entertaining out of town relatives with sightseeing trips or important errands. He was always willing to help others and expected nothing in return.
There was nothing Asit could not do, as evidenced by his full life – entrepreneur, businessman, technology expert – complemented by son, brother, father, and husband.
We will remember him for his great charm, wit, generosity and helpful nature. He will always live in our heart and mind, we can cherish the beautiful memories and how he touched our lives.
Rest in peace!
Leena Krishnaswami and family
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Rupa Masi posted a symbolic gesture
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
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અસિત મારો લાડકો ભાણેજ હુ તેને પ્રેમથી ચમનીયો કહેતી ં ખૂબ લાગણી વાળો, હંમેશા બીજા માટે કંઈક કરવા તત્પર ં પુ ભાઈ કહેતા કે અમેરિકા જાઈ એ ત્યારે અસિત ની સામે જોઈએ અેટલે તે પૂછે શુ ભાઈ ં હમેશા ટીવી સામે બેઠો હોય, તેની સાથે બેસીને અમે રેખાબેન ની અને અપેક્ષાની ખૂબ મશ્કરી કરીએ ં બીજા માટે કંઇક કરી છૂટવા હમેશા તૈયાર હુ ઘણી વાર તેને પરદુખ ભંજન રાજા વીર વિકૃમ કહેતી ં બધાના નામ લેવા જોઈએ અેક વાર દેશીદવાની દુકાન મા ગુટકા છે તેવુ પુછવા ગયો , દુકાન વાળા ગુસ્સે થયા તેને વર્ષો વીતી ગયા પણ હમણાં આવ્યો ત્યારે મને કહે માસી ત્યાં આર। એમ ડી નુ પૂછી આવુ? છેલ્લા 8વર્ષમા મારા પાંચ સ્વજન ચાલ્યા ગયા પણ અસીત સૌથી નાનો તેની ખોટ પૂરાશે નહીં
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Zamir Brelvi lit a candle
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
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Asit was a dear friend and he will deeply missed.
He was a compassionate family man.
We pray for his peaceful passage.
Deepest condolences to the family.
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Urvashi lit a candle
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
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Asit... my brother. I know you were not a part of my life for many years. It’s very unfortunate. Regardless, I have loved you my brother since the moment you came into my life. You were the brother I truly wanted. My experiences were with you were all treasureable....
You were a true brother. I know that I am missing major chunks of your life but I can only speak to what I had the fortunate time I had with you. You brought so much genuine love, guidance and teasing like a brother should...
You teased me relentlessly with all my dolls and my innocent ways. I have fond memories of you teasing me with my dolls and throwing them around and Bina and I fighting you to get them back. As I got older, I was in a car accident with a lot of facial damage and crooked nose. You came to the hospital and teased me about my permanent damage of my nose .. you made me laugh! As I got older, I told you I had a lot of anxiety and you drove me to a bookstore and gave me a book to overcome that. You were truly a genuine loving soul that cared about me and loved everyone around you. I remember all the pranks you played on us to bring laughter in our lives! You were a VERY special soul that I truly know..,I wish you could have overcome your pain and shared the AMAZINGNESS of you with the world and your family. My brother I know your true soul and the joy you brought to so many of us. I wish I had more time with you.....I pray that your soul Rest In Peace and know how much you were loved! I cried a thousand tears for your life because who could forget those charming dimples and the twinkle in your eyes? Love you my brother. May you Rest In Peace with your beautiful mother and may I see you again! I pray that your family can bear this tremendous loss and move on and carry your legacy of your joyful loving heart!
Your sister Urvashi better known as Urvi! We are always here for your family!!
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Benamasi, Shashikant masa posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
Dear Apexa, Anita, Sanjay, Reshma, Ria, Roshni, Anand and Natasha.
We are very saddened to read about Asit passing away. He was a very loving, caring and helpful person. Whenever we came to New Jersey he made sure to spend time with us and he always cracked jokes which were hilarious. Every time when we visited New Jersey, he would come around and would take us out in his car. He will be greatly missed and we pray that his soul rest in peace. I pray that god give all of you strength to bear this pain.
Our sincere condolences.
Jai Shree Krishna Benamasi, Shashikant masa.
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Geeta Mehta posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
Our deepest condolences to the family. We will miss you Asit Kumar. He was a wonderful person who always lived his life to the fullest. He loved cooking and made sure whoever came to the house never left hungry. Full of joy and a smile on his face, he always made others laugh. You will always remain alive in our hearts and memories.
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Our sincere condolences to the entire Dave family.
We know Asit and Apexa for a very long time. If I have to describe Asit as a person in two words it would be-
“ Genuine Soul”. He is a person who would do anything for anyone even if it was in the middle of the night. There are many great memories with him. The best was during our family trip in 2009 in Jamaica during winter break. He was pretty much the center of attraction during the evening theme nights at the resort. During the day he would try to attempt different stunts even though he was not a pro at it. He kept trying and trying; kept falling off the Para sail over and over again. This showed how stubborn and determined he was :-). He Definitely made us laugh so hard. That trip was very memorable to all of us and we will always cherish that forever.
During Apexa’s 50th birthday in 2020, He called me to ask if I can help him organize a quarantine party. Without any hesitation we (I; some friends; his girls) planned everything out. Throughout the process we let him believe he was running the show and that made him very happy. He wanted the best birthday ever for her!
All in all he is such a caring friend who we will always remember in our hearts and cherish all the memories in the past many years we spent together.
Asit - do not worry about Apexa and the girls. We are here for them always!
With love,
Minal, Bhavesh, Neelay & Jay Patel
(Till we meet again)
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Rutu posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
I will miss you, Asit Bhai. You have left a gaping hole in our hearts. This is an unimaginable loss for the family
Asit Bhai was a generous person. We were told never to ask anything to Asit bhai because if you ask for one thing he would buy 25. He would do everything in his power and then some to help a person out.
Despite, living in US for most of his life, he was a desi man at heart. He loved desi food like Rotla, Bhadthu, Undhiyu. He preferred going to local joints instead of fancy new places, when he would visit India; he cared about going to his favorite spots. He would become friends with business owners and get deals.
I grew up listening to stories of his mischief’s. He was notorious for terrorizing stray dogs in the neighborhood. My mom would say that they could hear dogs crying before Asit bhai showed up at the door. He had this impulse to tease animals that sometimes got him in trouble, like how he was bit by a monkey in Baroda zoo.
Inspite of such stories, I remember him to be strict. When I came to US in 2001, he created a lesson plan for me to learn English. He would sit with me and ask me to read news paper and give him a summary of what I read. After my daughter Anaya was born, he taught me how to use road signs to teach her adding and subtracting.
I will always remember Asit Bhai for his mischief, generosity, and willingness to help anyone in need. Mom, Yatrik Bhai and I will miss you very much.
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Wednesday, January 6, 2021
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My deepest regret in life is that I was not part of my cousin brothers life. Although, we did grew up together, we did have fun times when we were kids. I remember him being funny, he always, made us laugh so much until our tummy hurt. One of the favorite memory I have of him, when I was in middle school. My dad owned a Motel. We all (me, Urvi,Milind,Saumil,Anita), went to motel on the cliff. They gave us 2 rooms. One for boys and one for girls. The 2 boys, were being so naughty, especially, Asit. He would call us up and put the phone on the flush and flush the toilet. Then. He and Milind would put the white sheets on themselves and they would scream like a ghost and go to our window to try and scared us. It surely worked because us 3 was scared but Saumilben was older was those childish games. She would yell at all of us. It was so much fun. Next day, we all walked to theatre to see Popeyes. I will miss you so much. Believe it or not, but Urvi and I asked Saumilben to coordinate reunion for all of us again. Now, you are gone, away. It was not your time. May god give you all the peace and happiness you need. We love you Asit! RIP my brother!
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Akash R. Shukla posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
On January 2nd, 2021, my dear cousin, who I lovingly called Brother since I was a little boy, passed away. He was such a generous person- always willing to help people. I have many fond memories of him. When I was 3 and went to nursery school, I was miserable the first day and did not want to go back. Asitbhai asked me if I wanted him to come to nursey school and spend the whole day with me. So, the next day, in his 3 piece suit, Asitbhai came to my nursery school and sat next to me the whole day. It was him who taught me how to ride a 2 wheeler bike.
When I was in lower school, he would come to pick me up from school sometimes. I would tell my teacher, “My Brother is coming to pick me up.” My teacher would reply, “How is that possible, you don’t have a brother.”
He was a very loving man, and my entire family will miss him dearly. We all send our love and sympathies to Asitbhai’s loving wife and three daughters. We wish we could be with them in New Jersey during this tough time. And, may Asitbhai, my dear cousin brother’s soul Rest In Peace.
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Bakul, Billu, Vikram and Neeta Thakar planted a tree in memory of Asit Tony Dave
Wednesday, January 6, 2021
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Dear Dave Family, may this tree reflect the eternal smile Asit Mama brought to our faces. May he rest in peace with Rekha Masi.
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Rahul Shukla posted a condolence
Tuesday, January 5, 2021
Rahul Shukla's Tribute
My Nephew- Asit Dave: A man with a golden heart
It is so sad to write a tribute for a friend or a relative- but to write a tribute to my 57 year old nephew crushes my heart.
My elder sister Rekhaben got married in 1963. When her son was born, I was 18. The son had the deepest and the cutest dimples I had ever seen. My sister was all set to name him Hitesh. I suggested the name Asit. ‘Why Asit?’ She asked. I told her the name comes from Rigveda and it was the name of a great Rishi.
It was not customary in India of 1960s that a maternal uncle would choose a name for a boy. It was a role reserved for paternal aunt. But my sister took my suggestion. She named him Asit. Before he could even speak- Asit had figured out that uncle Rahul had a special connection with him. Asit was a mischievous little boy- and sometimes raised tiny hell for everyone. But not for Uncle Rahul. ‘Rahulmama’ (uncle Rahul) meant so much to him Many years later, when Meena and I were returning from a trip to India, Asit along with his sister and mother flew with Meena and I - to join his father in the USA. For many years, we all lived in the same town, Piscataway, NJ. Rahul-mama and Meena-Mami meant a lot to Asit. When Akash was born, Asit used to visit us three times a day. In 1994 Asit married a bright and beautiful woman Apexa. Their three daughters have grown into beautiful young women. And why not, their dad - with his killer dimples - was a charmer of a handsome man.
Asit’s trademark dimples transmitted a signal to the world about his big heart. He would give a shirt off his back to a stranger to help out. You need a ride to work, Asit would do it with a smile. A friend needs to be dropped at JFK airport, Asit was always ready. If a relative was visiting from India and wanted to go sightseeing, Asit would spend his time and his money- and would want nothing in return- not even a ‘thank you’.
My nephew had a heart of gold, He loved life. He loved movies, politics, he loved to drink, he made killer Parotha and mouth burning Potato-Sabji. But life threw some curved balls at him. Lately, his liver started giving up. Last month, he was in and out of the hospital. We thought, like previous times, he would come out fine. But God had other plans. Last week, he was moved to Weill Cornell in New York. There was a glimmer of hope that the best hospital in the world would make him better. But God had other plans.
His wife Apexa moved mountains to save him. My paternal nephew and a world renowned surgeon at Weill Cornell left no stone unturned. But God had other plans. Asit left this earth this afternoon. Asit’s mom (my sister Rekhaben) passed away only a year ago. His sister Anita in California is heart broken. Apexa and daughters Ria, Reshma and Roshni are crushed. My sister Rupa in India and brother Rajen in NJ are so very sad.
My son Akash was very close to Asit. Even though Asit was his cousin, until Akash was four years old, Akash thought, Asit was his real elder brother. And why not, Asit was always there to play with Akash. Even now, Akash refers to Asit as ‘Brother’. But the Brother - with killer dimples and a golden heart left us this afternoon. Radha, Akash, Meena and I hug each other and cry our hearts out.
Asit, you were part of every event in our life, every diwali party, every election night party, Christmas, birthday and graduation parties. You were a man with a golden heart. You were a good man. You always had a smile on you and you had good will in your heart for everyone you met. If I did not tell this to you enough while you were with us, I am telling you now. We will miss you forever.
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